Yeah, I know, celebrating a birthday now in Covid Lockdown won’t be the same…but it is what it is, and there’s certainly no fun in moping around about it. I’ll tell where there is fun, though…its right where you create it!;) There’s always fun to be had, you just gotta want it. So, all my little May babies..and possibly even June babies (sorry, guys, just doing the maths here on our health stats, and it doesn’t look good), if you’re a bit stuck for ideas, this one is for you! (Also I started writing this a while ago, so, this now extends to us July babies…and August, September, October?)
Call me heavily influenced by the 80’s American Kid or whatever, but I always so keen on creating a time capsule. It just seemed like the “neatest” thing to do as a kid. Can you imagine being the one to find some one else’s time capsule from say 50 years ago?!! Wow!
And even with my own kids I’ve always wanted to do this. Now, in the time of Covid, I think the sparks flew even bigger, so much so when I saw another mom on IG share a free resource on this time capsule, I was all in! I mean, yes, we’ve been journaling our lockdown (almost) every morning, so we have record of all that, and it’s helping the kids sort through their emotions, but Continue reading
This very day is forever emblazoned in my mind..a thousand thoughts streaming at me and through me…The day we found out we had a FOURTH little something something baking in my oven..even though I only just returned to work. It was a day of feeling both great emancipation, and heavenly bliss..and whilst those two emotions sound like a packaged deal, they actually each came from the very opposite ends of the spectrum of having babies…I know that sentence didn’t make much sense at all…but read on and it should become clear.
We had just had our third darling child…and it was both an enormous and gratifying sensation witnessing, and getting to embrace how our dreams of having a big family were unfolding for us. I mean, we finally crossed that line where the kids now outnumbered us. A particularly joyous crossing, after only but riding that same wave a few months before, then crashing into Continue reading
Breakdowns in Lockdown. Thursday past was my day. Seems like everyone is having their turn and last week, my number was up. I was a solid mess. Like, on the floor in a heap ugly crying. It took me by surprise. I knew this was going to be hard- this lockdown – it was never intended to be easy. That was never the point of it all. But I thought I was doing fine despite the inordinate task that’s been set for us all.
We all know that what is being asked of us right now, is simply impossible: cooking,cleaning, work, feeding,teaching, nappies, bottles, meetings, teething babies, growth spurts, middle of the night wakeups. It’s a list that just won’t quit, and you just never get to it all. And yet many of us still are finding ourselves dead on the floor trying to do just that. Often this is not of our volution, because, for some, there’s still this invisible pressure from management that wants to completely negate the reality that many are sitting with at home. Or the complete lack of any empathy or indication of understanding it. Like the reality of 4 kids, 2 very busy babies, with nappies and bottles and who need you to be all in, all the time. I mean there is a reason why one pays top Continue reading
Edit: Added a few more since publishing, and will as I get the chance to…
So I know you’re probably up to your eyeballs already in all the suggestions of how to keep your kids busy during this time of social distancing…so no pressure on my list. Take what you need from it, or leave it – all good. But what I do know is that everyone’s routines are going to be thrown out, and we may all need some help with extra ideas and tips to help us get through this time with all sanity in tact.
Personally, I know there are a couple of activities that not only keep my kids entertained and buy me some silence and sanity, but also keep their minds engaged and happy as well. There are some activities that also provide some applied thinking and maths. But most of all…I find with the reduced screen time ( they CHOOSE to do the activities over the tv), by the end of day, everyone’s moods were great, their focus was SO MUCH better…and they actually listened to us and went to bed with ease.
Now don’t worry, this is not going to be a post on why you need to cut screen time…cause Lawd knows this is not the time us parents are looking to cut screen time…In fact, I cant see Continue reading
Oh hello lovelies, the suns out, but my bum’s in bed…nursing my feet that gave up the ghost after this year’s spectacular kicking of my ass. Bust up feet, as sissy as this injury may sound, is total buzz kill and an unfortunate side effect of multiple pregnancies coupled with a genetic disorder I discovered I have, matched with a very busy festive period. Also, I’m now stuck in limbo… aka the period between Christmas and New Year, where you’re completely unaware of what day it is, nor interested in even finding out! 😉
But I have to remind myself, there’s Continue reading
What a weekend this was!! In fact, what a week! I went from celebrating our little Yurko-Mae’s second birthday through groggy, exhausted but excited existence (Because when you’re THIS sleep deprived -tahnks Remy- that’s what it is: existence), spiralling through a stressful week of work, and mounting worry about Remy’s nutrition. Right through to a full on emotional break-down, that I then shared on IG – which I probably will discuss more with you. BUT, at another time, for with the support of my hubby and not to mention the stream of kind & supportive messages I received from our little IG community, I managed to pull myself up by the threads of my big girl panties, and got my ish together for my girl! And what a lovely day it was! (And the whole weekend crescendo’ed with us winning a South African Parenting Blog Award for 2019.)
It was absolutely lovely…and not in the way you might think;There were no pinteresty hand made décor pieces this time. There was no yummy centre piece birthday I baked myself. There were no clever,thoughtful thank-you party packs. In fact, there was not Continue reading
Guys, we did it! Can I get a halleluja! Despite the levels of insane exhaustion right now. In the face of the crazy schedules we have in our lives right now; with work mixed in with small babies, breastfeeding, pumping, big kids, and 3am-5am feeding sessions (Lawd, give me strength!)…we (finally) pulled off that do-over birthday celebration for our baby girl!
Remember? Our eldest Morgy had her birthday slap bang in the midst of all the chaos when the black plague hit our home back in May. We didn’t have any big plans for parties that day, except for just family coming over to wish her. But if you know the Continue reading
So, before this 19th day of May, 2019, I thought all birthdays were created equal…You know, that all were filled with sweet surprises and excitement built up over months of count downs, crescendoing in heart warming moments of sheer happiness…Along with, as the parent, that ever present bittersweet pill that you have to swallow every year – the one that annually sucker punches you in the throat with the realisation that you baby is swiftly moving further and further away from being an actual baby. (Even though that very same sentiment is beautifully laced with the absolute honor and joy of getting to witness your child grow up, savour and enjoy this world…I mean that is the ultimate goal right? To raise these well adjusted individuals who can go forth into this world and discover, be happy, spread love and grow…)
I thought all birthdays, whilst each very wonderful & exciting, were the same in that its an amazing celebration of another year. But now, having had the Continue reading
Looking back on where my mind was when I first felt all of this, then looking where we are now, there’s an energetic bubbling in my being for the sheer realization that dreams do come true. Every time I catch myself staring at the four little people who call me ‘mama’ interacting with each other, I have a great sense of excitement of what is to come, only surpassed by the sense of pure gratitude of what already is. At this point in our lives, we’ve now gone full circle, as by His good graces we have our large family that we ached for. But, the journey towards developing that beautiful tapestry of a tight-knit family unit is one of perpetual motion. An on-going labour of love. One, I was SO excited to start, that I thought I’d crack open my heart and mind a bit here, and share my rhymes and reasons. This was where I was when we were only at the start of this journey…
I’ve grown both tired of and used to the all too common reaction I get from most people when they hear how many children Mike and I would like to have.Yes, I know it doesn’t make sense to most people why we would want a large family, in this “day and age”, but also I’ve been fielding that question since I was about eight years old. In fact, I can still remember one of my first adlib Afrikaans orals I did in high school had me batting off that question. Mostly it’s been my dream, and thankfully I have a man who was and still is on board with it- so now it’s our dream. God-willingly, of course.
Maybe if you knew that I come from a large family, you’d maybe better understand why wanting a big family is less Continue reading