Oh, boy , oh boy, oh boy…aint life just full of suprises! There truly are moments in your life that can, despite all that you thought you felt and knew about a situation, can totally surprise you – like a cream pie in the face. And leave you licking it off and laughing in absolute delight.
This gender reveal was definitely one of those moments…and one for books indeed!
Now, I’m not talking so much about the party itself- as that we kept super low key, with just a few touches here and there to let you know ,”hey, you’re at a gender reveal party, in case you forgot”. We were very sure about that, because a) I had zero energy to spare, and b) we had zero energy to spare, but we knew this was something we wanted to share with the family. Also, we always crave to be with our family – always good times to be had with the moms, my brothers and their families. So any excuse to hang with them will do, but not to play it down, this was also really happy and fun news that we wanted everyone in on.
So, what Im really referring to here is the real guts of it all…The moment my girls discovered they were having a brother.
It was all very sweet though, the whole build up to it on the day, as we waited for all my family to arrive, and put the final touches to everything. ( I made a basic balloon garland, and Im pretty damn proud of it!)
My niece, Lora-Laine went around video’ing everyone’s vote- funny enough, every single one of them voted boy, EXCEPT for my niece herself.
Both my girls, as you may recall have been adamant throughout the pregnancy that this was a boy, despite me trying my very best to keep them neutral about it, so that we could avoid the drama and tears of the last time. – even telling their nanny “how silly mommy is for not knowing that this is boy!”…”She doesn’t even know!”. And Morgy in the weeks before had told me, “I’ve been asking God for a very long time now. So this better be a boy!”…I couldn’t help but feel nervous every time she expressed her feelings about this.
Parker was no different…except she changed her “vote” from boy to “BOTH” the night before! She wanted twins…oi. ( this sounded far too similar to the build up of the last gender reveal we did!)
And on strangely on the day, when I asked her on the day, minutes before they popped the balloon, she suddenly went all, “I don’t know”, and silent.
But forward wind to the moment of truth… where the girls were armed with pins…
Family gathered around. (So wished someone kept the camera on them too, as their reactions were just as priceless to me)…
Being aware that Yuriko is super sound sensitive, I swopped balloon anchoring with Mike for holding her, trying my best to brace her for the POP.
The excitement in the room was palpable, and I couldn’t wait to see how my girls were going to react.
Blue confetti everywhere!
Unfortunately, the pop from the balloon was so super loud, that even I got a huge fright, never mind Yuriko-Mae, who screamed blue murder (as I expected). So much so, I couldn’t at all focus on my big girls, and had to pour all my attention onto little screaming baby. She just couldn’t take not only the balloon popping, but also the loud and excited roar from the crowd. As I tried to pacify Coco, all I heard from Morgy and Parky was, “Its boy! It’s a boy!” and “I cant believe it’s a boy!”
My mom came in to hug me and help me with Coco, with tears in her eyes. And I know a few others like my brother Max came in to hug too, but with Coco screaming, it was all just a bit of blur. All I remember though, are my cheeks aching from the smiling and laughter, and seeing all these cheery faces around me.
At one point I saw Morgy dive into all the blue confetti on the floor and simulate swimming in it as she declared her disbelief and happiness. It was quite hilarious actually. Parker took to making it “rain” down on her…it was all just so very festive in my mom’s lounge that day. And I loved watching my big girls’ reaction to learning they will have a little brother soon.
Coco eventually joined them too, but my little sensitive soul doesn’t do well with too many people and noise, and was stuck on me for the rest of the day. (not sure how she intends to survive my family, but she’ll have to find a way to manage eventually)
Thereafter, my nephew under the helpful eye of my brother, made us some delicious smoke fish to go with the big spread that my mom (and my brother and his wife) cooked up. And what an exciting day it was.
Now, guys…I feel like must reiterate here that we would have been just as happy with either gender. W’eve always maintained that we’ve had such great experiences with all our girls that we would welcome another little girl with great happiness, and a strong sense of familiarity. And that if it were a boy, it would be truly a different and such an exciting journey for us, because it’d all be so new…
I certainly was surprised, to put it mildly. I think I did a great job at keeping myself neutral despite my natural inclination to want to figure it out. However, I must also be honest and tell you that, much like I did my best to ensure my girls’ emotions and feelings were tended to before discovering such big news in front a BIG crowd with no where to hide your reactions, I too took some necessary steps to ensure my head was in the right space before the time. Especially with me being an extremely private person (gasp! Yes, I may have a blog, but I’m quite a private person. There’s LOTS you don’t know! 😉 ) But what and how I did that, I will share in a different post.
For now, we are quite excited about this excitingly new and oh so different journey ahead of us.
In fact, we’re delighted about this new journey that lays ahead of us, and so often as we watch our current three play with each other in such a beautiful little rhythm that they’ve organically found, and just wonder how, not only will the 4th one change that dynamic, but how a BOY will now change it up too! I cant wait!
Already they are planning who gets to share rooms with who; Parky has claimed Coco as her roomy, whilst Morgy has called dibs on her brother. And whilst there is no way I want Parky to infect Coco with her poor night time sleep habits, I’m loving how much they are enjoying planning their futures together. That’s the shizz my motherhood dreams were made of, man!
But yeah…a boy! Apparently unplanned pregnancy and birthday sex was our recipe! 😉
And we already have so many questions! Like SO many! From complex matters such as circumcision – what’s the pro’s and con’s – to the simplest things like WHERE on earth do I find gorgeous clothes for little boys? And décor items for his room? I mean I have nephews, so I can turn to my family, but guys, ALL your input and advice is MOST welcome! Hit me up!
Anyhoo, life is a bit hectic on our side, gender news aside, and Im yet to make proper arrangements for anything about this pregnancy. So best I get cracking on it all. Although a surprising complete lack in energy makes it a bit of hard ask right now. (All my boy mom friends have weighed in to tell me that the boys drained them during pregnancy. If you’re a boy mom, did you find this to be true? Would love to know, as knowing this may make this energy slump a bit less frustrating for me.)
But yeah, a boy….Not just raising little women anymore then….Can’t wait! X
All photography credit goes to AJ Young of AJ Young Media.