If there has ever been a question we’ve been asked the most about this pregnancy – aside from, “are you SURE it’s not twins?”, it would have to be, are you going to find about the gender with this one? And I get it, we have three girls..somehow everyone assumes that we must somehow on some level be HOPING for a boy… So they assume that we must be on edge about finding out. And also with us, you never know how we will roll – because we’ve done the waiting till birth (Parker-Grace), finding out as soon as possible (Morgan-Lee) because Dad just couldn’t take the suspense, and we’ve also done the whole gender reveal (Yuriko-Mae). So we’ve done the full gamut of “gender experiences” as such.
And I’ve got to say the best for me was waiting till birth. There is nothing like it. Nothing. And what was more, was that the midwife left it up to me to find out the gender, she immediately passed Parker to me to discover it for myself. And I was actually looking forward to that feeling again. I mean, as my one friend’s mom put it, “there are already so few true suprises in this life…why take away this one?” But as my friend’s counter-argument is, “if this is boy, then we need to know NOW!” ?
And I love the sentiment behind that. But also, I’m not someone who needs to know to be in control type of personalities. So not knowing doesn’t bother me at all.(I can see my darling friends shaking their heads) 🙂 Honestly. It doesn’t. Want to know how much it doesn’t bother me? Well, we’ve had the gender written down for us by the fetal scan technician, sealed in an envelope, marked as secret, tucked away in my cupboard…for SEVEN weeks already! Yes, SEVEN! And it hasn’t yet bothered us once.
Most people react gobsmacked when I tell them that we haven’t been tempted to peep at it at all. And most believe we must have peeped. But honestly, guys, the gender does bother us one bit. And Im talking from a fresh perspective of having had those surprise hidden emotions to pink balloons – remember that? That gender reveal confession I had last year (See here)? Yeah…I think this time I truly have a fresh and clean and clear perspective on it this time.
So where are on this? Well, Mike and I are all for waiting for birth. It’ll be epic. BUT, the girls are once more very keen to do the reveal. But I suspect they are mostly just sold on the novelty of the balloons and the gathering of family. Or maybe they are just super excited to find out about their sibling – they swear it is that. Or maybe it’s a bit of A & B? Either way, that’s the only reason why we would cave and do a gender reveal. And why we actually asked the technician to write it down for us and seal it up.
But they have calmed down in the past three weeks about it all…And also we have spent the last few weeks in and out of hospital with the kids with adeno virus, and then having the freakin plague hit our entire family – we have a nice collection of Croup, Lung infections, Pink eye, and a bunch of other stuff. So much fun.Bleh. But point is, our heads weren’t just there in any case. So we’ll see how it goes. The kids do pipe up about it now and again. And as we regain our energy again, Im sure we might regain our excitement about this…Who knows?! 😉
So what would you do if you have that little secret tucked away in your closet? What would you do? 🙂 X
I totally think we are spirit sistahs!!! I say, wait!!! I love surprises and this is just the ultimate. Having said that, at the birth of #2 (who was surprise gender at birth) I totally forgot to check or care. I was just so happy he was ok!! Baby #1 was gender reveal (hubby couldn’t wait) and baby #3 was let’s just find out ASAP!! So we too have been through it all. My fave is still waiting!! Enjoy whatever you decide!!
Haha..my soul sistah – love it! And yeah, we seem to have the exact same pattern of gender reveal times- and reasoning! 🙂
And yes, SAME! My fave is also waiting…But right now we are all over the place as a family.
We did the immediate finding out asap thing with baby number 1. With number we were going to do the gender reveal but I saw his little winkie on the scan and knew immediately. With number 3,we waited for birth. And in all honestly, waiting to find out with Harper was the best decision of the 3. I say wait, tuck that envelope far away and give everyone a sweet surprise when that darling baby makes his/her debut.
hahah…yes, waiting 9 months for the best suprise is truly the ultimate. But when big sisters are super excited and want it enough, it can change mom and dad’s mind easily..so we’ll see how this week goes.
Ah I get that, shame. Whatever you decide, it will be the best decision for your family. 😀
i would definitely have given in to my kids already and done a gender reveal again. Just because it is so exciting and to see them enjoy it so much would be everything. Goodluck with the decision and i look forward to reading about it 🙂
Yesss! I know exactly what you mean! They get so super excited about this, that it’s hard to not want to join them.
Ps. We have actually now come to a decision! ?
I also preferred to wait for birth. 🙂
Yes, Wenchy! ? There’s honestly no better suprise than to right?!
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